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Most people who are trying to quit porn

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are focusing on the wrong problem. They

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think they're trying to quit

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pornography, but what they're really

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trying to do is to change a brain that

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has learned to depend on pornography.

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That, my friend, is a very different

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distinction. Because if quitting porn

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were simply about deleting apps,

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blocking websites, or having more

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willpower, far fewer people would still

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be struggling. Yet, every single day

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people quit for a week, a month, even 90

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days, only to find themselves right back

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where they started. Why?

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The reason is because the behavior isn't

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the root problem. The brain state is.

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And until you understand that, recovery

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often feels like an endless cycle

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starting over and over and over. This

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mentally and physically, go over to

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I'm Dr. Trish Lee, cognitive

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neuroscientist and your biggest

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supporter. Welcome back to the podcast.

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I am very excited to dive into this

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topic because I really want you to

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understand this so you can succeed in

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the least amount of time possible with

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the least amount of effort necessary.

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So, get a cup of Joe, buckle up, let's

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go. Okay, one of the biggest

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misconceptions about pornography is that

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it is a discipline problem. People tell

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themselves, "I just need more

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self-control." Or, "I need to try

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harder."

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>> [snorts]

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>> But imagine trying to eat in a healthy

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way while your brain constantly craves

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sugar. It's dependent on it. Eventually,

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willpower gets exhausted. Well, the same

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thing happens with pornography. Porn

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doesn't just activate pleasure. It

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activates anticipation,

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novelty, reward, fantasy, and high

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levels of dopamine. It taps directly

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into the brain's motivational circuitry.

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So, when people say, "Just stop

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watching," they're often asking someone

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to override one of the most powerful

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learning systems in the human brain

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without understanding how the system

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works. And that is why I am here. I'm

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here to introduce a framework that helps

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explain to you what is actually

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happening. So, first, let's talk about

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the hijack. The reward system gets

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captured by highly stimulating content.

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Pornography creates a powerful dopamine

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response because it combines novelty,

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anticipation, and very high levels of

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reward in a way that the brain was never

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evolved to handle. So, over time, the

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brain begins paying more attention to

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the source of stimulation because it has

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learned that it delivers a very fast and

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The brain isn't trying to sabotage you.

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It's doing what brains do best. It's

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learning. Okay, so after the hijack

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comes the miswire. The brain starts

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adapting around the behavior. It

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develops pathways that associate stress

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relief, boredom relief, loneliness

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pornography. At this point, pornography

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isn't simply something that you watch.

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when discomfort shows up. This is why so

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many people are confused by their

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relapses. People tell me all the time,

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"I wasn't even thinking about sex."

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start with desire. They start with

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discomfort. Stress, frustration,

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fatigue, anxiety, loneliness, overwhelm.

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urge is actually, "I need relief."

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your brain learned to take to get relief

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fast. This is the very reason that

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removing pornography doesn't always

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solve the problem because the pathways

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remain. The brain has already learned

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where to go when life becomes difficult.

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with something healthier, the brain will

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continue returning to the route it knows

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best. That's why so many people quit

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porn only to find themselves scrolling

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endlessly, gaming for hours, binge

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social media in a hypersexualized way,

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discomfort. The brain isn't necessarily

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though pornography has the highest level

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stimulation, so it does grab you by the

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I worked with a client several years

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ago. Let's call him Mike. Mike was

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incredibly successful. He was married,

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he had children that he loved, he owned

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a business, and he looked like, on the

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outside, that he had everything

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together. Yet, he had spent years

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trapped in a cycle of quitting and

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relapsing. 7 days, 14 days, 30 days, 90

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days, then back again. Every relapse

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felt completely devastating to him

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because every time he genuinely believed

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this time would be the last time. When

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we started looking at his brain and his

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behavior together, something became

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totally obvious. The relapse never

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actually started with pornography. It

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started much earlier. Stress at work,

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mental exhaustion, isolation, mindless

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scrolling, then pornography. The porn

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wasn't the beginning of the cycle. It

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was the final step. Once he could see

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the pattern, everything changed for him.

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resisting pornography, he started

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focusing on understanding the conditions

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that made pornography more likely for

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him. That's the difference right there.

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control a behavior and learning how your

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brain works. One approach creates

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absolute frustration. The other creates

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insight. And insight is powerful because

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once you can see the chain clearly, you

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can interrupt it before it gains

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momentum. You stop obsessing over the

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relapse and you start paying attention

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to the process that leads to the

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relapse. That's where lasting change

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begins. One of the reasons that recovery

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feels so difficult to so many people is

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because pornography changes how the

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reward system responds to life. Dopamine

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is often called the pleasure chemical,

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motivation, anticipation, and wanting.

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what drives you toward something. When

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pornography repeatedly floods the reward

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system with novelty,

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what happens is everyday experiences

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begin feeling less rewarding by

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comparison. Work feels harder, goals

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feel much less exciting, relationships

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as lazy when what's actually happening

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is that their reward circuitry has

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become completely disregulated. That's a

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mis-wiring in the brain. But here's the

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good news. The same brain that learned

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the pattern that became mis-wired can

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learn a new pattern, become rewired.

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on what it repeatedly experiences. The

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pathways that became strengthened can

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artificial stimulation can in fact be

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reconnected to your real life. This is

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where the next phase begins, the desire

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re-wire. Recovery is not simply removing

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pornography.

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The desire re-wire is about teaching the

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brain where the reward belongs. It

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belongs with purpose and passion,

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accomplishment, exercise, learning,

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creativity, deep relationships, service,

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and building something meaningful, your

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meaningful life. These experiences also

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activate dopamine, but unlike

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pornography, they improve your life

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while they reward your brain. And then

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eventually, something absolutely

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remarkable happens. The re-wiring

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becomes automatic. That's what I call

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becoming hardwired,

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hardwired into the life that you want.

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It's not about perfection, and it's not

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about never experiencing urges or

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temptation. Hardwired means your brain

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and learned to work for you again

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instead of against you. Real life

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becomes rewarding again. Purpose becomes

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rewarding again. Connection feels great.

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toward artificially high stimulation

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because it has become invested in your

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actual life again. That my friend is the

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destination, not simply quitting

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pornography, building a brain that no

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longer needs it. Now, one of the

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questions that has fascinated me,

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especially early in my career, was this:

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Why do some people seem to recover

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relatively quickly while others stay

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stuck despite wanting recovery just as

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badly? The answer became much clearer

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once I started looking directly at the

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brain through QEEG brain mapping. What

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I've discovered is that people

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struggling with pornography often have

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very different neurological patterns

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happening in their brains. Some show

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excessive fast wave activity. This is

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associated with anxiety and

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hypervigilance. That's a strained brain.

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reward system dysregulation. Many people

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have a combination of several of those

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factors. Yet most recovery programs give

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everyone the exact same advice. Okay, so

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imagine going to your doctor because

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you're in incredible pain, but your

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doctor tells you to do the exact same

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treatment as every other patient that

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they see. They don't even examine you.

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doesn't make much sense. Yet this is how

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most recovery approaches work. But I

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want you to know your brain is unique.

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unique, too. That's why I believe in

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brain mapping as such a powerful tool in

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this journey. Instead of guessing, we

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can actually see what's happening in

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your brain. Instead of asking, "Why

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can't I quit?" we can start asking,

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"What is my brain doing that keeps

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pulling me back?" Brain mapping allows

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us to identify overactivity,

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underactivity,

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dysregulation, and imbalance. For many

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people, seeing their brain for the first

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time is incredibly relieving because the

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struggle finally starts to make sense.

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it becomes trainable. That's where

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neuromodulation technology comes in.

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performance. Neuromodulation isn't about

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forcing change through willpower. It's

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about helping your brain to learn

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healthier patterns. It can improve

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focus, reduce impulsivity, strengthen

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emotional regulation, and support

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healthier reward processing. For the

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first time in history, we can actually

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use technology to help the brain rewire

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itself, instead of continuing to miswire

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itself. So, the goal isn't simply to

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stop watching pornography. The goal is

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to create a brain that naturally moves

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toward the life that you want, rather

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than constantly pulling you away from

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it. Because ultimately, permanent,

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long-lasting recovery isn't about

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spending the rest of your life resisting

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urges. Nobody wants that. I definitely

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don't want that for you, and it's

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unnecessary. Permanent recovery is

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freedom. It's waking up and realizing

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pornography is no longer taking up any

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mental space in your brain. It's finding

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that your focus has returned, and your

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energy and motivation have returned.

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Your relationships become more

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meaningful and authentic. Your

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confidence is back.

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Your life feels interesting and

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rewarding again, and you can see the

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future. You're pulled toward it by the

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reward, not because you're forcing

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yourself to avoid something or anything,

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but because your brain has become

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naturally engaged with something better.

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So, if you've been struggling, I want

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you to stop asking, "What's wrong with

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me?" And I would love for you to start

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asking, "What is my brain trying to tell

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me?" Because for many people, the issue

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is not character. Hear me on this. It is

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brain dysfunction, and brain dysfunction

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can improve.

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So, if you've tried blockers,

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accountability partners, support groups,

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and sheer willpower, but you continue to

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find yourself trapped in the exact same

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cycle, it may be time for you, my

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friend, to stop guessing. Get your brain

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mapped. Understand what the driving

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source is under the behavior. Learn how

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your brain works. Because the goal isn't

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simply to quit pornography.

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My goal for you is to move from the

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hijacked brain, the dopamine hijack,

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that causes the miswiring, and instead

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rewire it, rewire desire, and then

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become hardwired into the life that you

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actually want. That is how lasting

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change happens.

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Okay, please remember to control your

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brain, or you know it, it will control

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you. I'll see you next time.